Help Wisconsin Fathers Protect their Children 2

Dear Friends,

Why should you care about the rights of parents in divorce and child custody cases?father-comforting-daughter-200x300

Recently, Dads of Wisconsin heard from a distraught father. We believe that Bob’s story will answer that question.

“My youngest daughter was not planned, but when I found out that I was going to be a father again there was no doubt in my mind that I wanted to be a part of her life.”

When Joy was six months old, paternity was established. Her parents were given equal custody, with Joy spending every other weekend with her father. They were referred to mediation to work out further details, but Joy’s mother walked out. After another attempt at mediation, Bob was given two more days per month with his daughter.

Joy’s mother engaged in gate-keeping behavior, calling several times a day when Joy was in Bob’s care. She also refused to include Bob in any decision-making related to Joy’s health and safety. Bob had serious concerns about some of the people Joy’s mother brought into her home.c43389a28b84bb36262b83f7d6f5157e

“Joy’s mother was exposing her to a sex offender and other criminals. I was worried about Joy’s safety.”

When Joy was two and a half years old, Bob got a call from a social worker at Child Protective Services who stated that Joy was removed from her mother’s care for Failure to Protect. Since Joy had not been harmed in the incident, according to the social worker, Bob’s concerns about her safety were ignored, and she was returned to her mother’s care.

When Joy was five years old she started gaining a lot of weight. Bob was very concerned about this, and the fact that Joy’s mother was still exposing her to known criminals.

Bob hired an attorney, hoping that he would finally be able to protect his daughter. The court commissioner agreed with Bob’s concerns, and the judge ordered a family study.

dadsofWI  logo draft 300x300 b“The social worker’s report was heavily biased toward Joy’s mother, including the lies that she told about me.”

Bob had his credit limit increased so he could continue to pay for legal representation. The attorneys on both sides negotiated for months, but Joy’s mother did not want to give in.

“Her mother said she would keep Joy away from certain people with criminal records, but only if I paid a lot more in child support.”

As much as it broke his heart, Bob simply did not have the income to agree. After two and a half years of negotiating and $20,000 in attorney fees, Bob was still not able to protect his little girl.

Situations like Bob’s are happening because parents are not seen as equals in family court.

You Can Help

Help children like Joy by donating to Dads of Wisconsin, so we can pass an equal placement bill during the next legislative session.


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2 thoughts on “Help Wisconsin Fathers Protect their Children

  • joel portmann

    I don’t have a lot of time right now, but I am 7years and $250,000 at lease into the insanity of the family court system. I raised 4 kids on my own for 14 years before this child was born 2 of which had special needs. All did very well and no one in the system said anything but they were good/great kids. ( now 26,25,19,18) as well as took in kids with behavrial problems. I did not get to see him for a year and a half, and then only at a domestic abuse shelter for another 8 months ( while I had all of my other kids and the kids with behavrial problem) I want to help and may need some, but the reality is I don’t have patience any more for a passive approach. If you are not willing to aggressively go after the abusive domestic abuse shelters who are the puppeteers for the court, you will not get anywhere fast. I can tell you that legislatures have told me strait out that their lobby is to strong and if they oppose anything they want they will not get reelected. same goes for judges… they are afraid of these clowns!

  • Nikki

    My best friend struggles to have a schedule of consistency with his 2 children (even though he pays almost $1100/mth in support). The children’s mother seems bitter towards him and chooses to punish her children by neglecting their basic needs and desires for their father. A father is a crucial role model for his children. Wisconsin legislature needs realize that even mothers can be harmful and detrimental to the upbringing of children. I myself (a mother) live in Illinois and have bent over backwards and paid insane amounts of money to protect my child from the drug abuse and unintentional neglect from her father. Even after an expensive GAL, it took a negative drug test for opiates for the courts to agree to supervised visitation for my child in regards to her father. If Wisconsin had just a fraction of the legislation Illinois does for fathers, my friend would be able to see his children regularly without the unnecessary dictation of time allotment from his bitter ex. Something needs to change. A good father is better any day of any week compared to a lack luster mother.